The best way to get to know yourself is to get into as many uncomfortable situations as possible. While you are living in comfort you continue to do what you have always done. This makes it very difficult to get to know who you are as you change from day to day within that comfort zone. You adopt different personalities, different roles and act in different ways depending on the situation. You can do these changes solely because you are so comfortable with the situation that these adjustments will either benefit you or make the situation easier.